Bullshit in, Bullshit Out

Saturday, September 24th, 2005 | Uncategorized

Ok, so tonight (yes, I said tonight, yes this is backdated a week, just humor me ok?), my friend lays this sob story on me. Setting: We were at a movie, and had just left to drive home.

He starts to tell me that the entire time we had been at a movie that he was miserable. Not because it was a lousy miserable movie, but because he was upset that he had left his sick wife at home.

Now apparently when he left the Mrs. said to have a good time (and not that it matters, but she meant it). Well he tells me that all he could do was sit and be miserable for being an ass to leave a sick wife at home.

So I had to tell him how it was…. Basically I said that it didn’t matter if she meant it or not, why worry about it now? If she did mean it then it would probably upset her more to know he spent his time NOT having a good time. If she didn’t really mean it, well… he would find out about it later and would deal with it then.

Well this lead us to another can of worms. Worrying. This is something that in all the time I have known him, has occupied probably 90% of his constant thought process.

So I pointed out what a waste of time that is. So perhaps you made a bad decision in the past, well you dealt with it when it happened and moved on. However maybe it was a good decision, however you were to busy focusing on the shitty details of what could of went wrong if you went for something that you choose not to do it.

LIFE is what you focus on people. WHAT the hell difference does it make to dwell on decisions that you have already made? Or for that matter what good will it do to sit and worry about what problems you will have in the future. When the problem arises DEAL with it. I mean if you spend 3 hours worrying about something that MIGHT happen, and then it never happens you just wasted 3 hours of you life.

Oh the other hand if life is how you look at it, and you are always looking at it pessimist then you will end up getting crappy results. Bullshit in, bullshit out.

Yes basically I batched out my friend for spending every waking second of his life worrying about other people and never himself. Constantly dwelling, worrying, and just being depressed over every little thing that can, might, or won’t ever happen!

I don’t care how Buddhist it sounds, but maybe they got it right on this one: Life in the Now!

True, perhaps I don’t worry enough. I mean I might just up and quit my job on a whim because I am not happy. When I feel over stressed If I know there is no easy fix for it, I tend to distance myself from the situation. I am sure there are several people who spend their precious time worrying about me; when will I pay off my debt, when will I get a job, will the job I got be the right one for me, I haven’t heard from him in awhile I wonder if he’s ok…. Personally I don’t see the point. If you want to know how I am doing, ask! I always get by no matter what is going on, perhaps the decisions I make are not the ones you would make….

It does not have to be your problem…. Unless I make it your problem, so save your time for life.

               

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