Turmoil, or not to Turmoil

Wednesday, February 22nd, 2006 | Site Updates

So I have been hanging out with a girl a lot while I have been at Covance. So naturally the other people who hang around me give me shit for it. All of them think there is something there and are getting their kicks off of tormenting me about it.

See the real story is that the girl has a boyfriend. To the people who are bothering me about it, they don’t seem to think that matters. I mean I am not that guy. The guy that your girl hangs out with when you are not around. The one you hate because you know that they want your girl. The one that you don’t trust and are angry at them for making you also not trust your girl…. I have been on the receiving end of that in my own life more than once.

I am fairly sure that this girl just wants another friend. I am the “perfect mark” for a guy-friend. A nice SAFE guy, who knows all sorts of strange and entertaining things that can make you think, hell I have even been known on occasion to be funny.

Look I know this girl is great… She has amazingly similar taste in music, is interested in all the subjects that I like to talk about, and is gorgeous without trying. Of course I know that a single guy and a girl cannot be just friends. All girls would like this to be true, but for guys that just doesn’t work and I am no chump.

However, I have a new belief on how that works with women. They want guys to be their “friends”, but they KNOW subconsciously at least that the “guy friends” they have want them, even if only a little. It gives a wonderful ego boost I imagine and though somewhat mentally abusive, the guy will end up being their “friend” with the fully conscious belief that just MAYBE someday things will be different.

Ok so there are always exceptions to everything, but you can fight genetics all you want, we are all built for sex.

So I am trying to be just friends with this girl. What a pain in the ass though. Don’t get me wrong, I am really enjoying our time together but the more time I spend with her the more that becomes annoyingly difficult to be friends.

While I have been here I have talked to and gotten along with all the girls who don’t hide in their rooms all day and a couple who do, (except one that I think has more testosterone in her system than me). This has caused the guys here to think I am a ladies man. However they are all like me. They see what they want to.

They see a guy and a girl who get along famously and since they are guys they think it’s just that simple. Even if I was good enough to transcend the guy-girl-friend-barrier it wouldn’t matter, because she is already with somebody. I get it.

Sure, there have been times when I didn’t care. I mean lets be honest enough alcohol and desire and you can find somebody just looking for a fling and still leave with a clear conscious. However I can’t start a relationship that way. So I will end up being doomed to the friend card, which I will end up turning into the acquaintance card to keep my own shit in check.

Eh, I know I am babbling now. I have probably repeated myself a few times, and there is really no point. Why should I trouble myself with it when I only have a couple days left to be here. Then we will both go back to our normal lives. She will go back to her boyfriend, and I will go back to well… my hottub ;) Life will move on, and after a couple weeks I will once again be a fairly well adjusted single guy.

Only this time I will be able to be that guy without credit card debt! I will meet somebody, someday who will have those qualities I seek (and a sexy accent wouldn’t hurt) and will seek them from me as well.

Someday I will crack the code. I will figure out how a guy and a girl can be just friends, I will then write a book and share the knowledge with the world (for a small fee of course).